love your kink.
I teach people how to better understand and express their kinky desires without shame, and empower them with the language and skills necessary to negotiate loving and lasting kink-positive relationships.
Whether you’re just coming to terms with your own interest in kink, want to communicate better with your partner(s), or are looking to bring a new level of intensity and intimacy to your sex life, I can provide you with the tools and techniques necessary to navigate the tricky terrain of alternative sexuality.
My Kink Counseling clients include individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships who are committed to their self-care and authentic sexual expression, and interested in bringing a sense of playfulness and adventure to their erotic lives. Many of the people I work with describe deeply held, life-long fetishes and fantasies that they’ve struggled to share with a partner, others describe stepping toward BDSM to meet the needs of someone they love, while still others are simply curious, adventurous, or inspired by pop culture or literature.
My work is informed by my training, including both Master's and Doctorate degrees in Clinical Psychology with a post-doctoral specialty in forensics working with sexual behavior problems, as well as 29 years of experience in the fields of professional BDSM and sex education.
Whether you’re just coming to terms with your own interest in kink, want to communicate better with your partner(s), or are looking to bring a new level of intensity and intimacy to your sex life, I can provide you with the tools and techniques necessary to navigate the tricky terrain of alternative sexuality.
My Kink Counseling clients include individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships who are committed to their self-care and authentic sexual expression, and interested in bringing a sense of playfulness and adventure to their erotic lives. Many of the people I work with describe deeply held, life-long fetishes and fantasies that they’ve struggled to share with a partner, others describe stepping toward BDSM to meet the needs of someone they love, while still others are simply curious, adventurous, or inspired by pop culture or literature.
My work is informed by my training, including both Master's and Doctorate degrees in Clinical Psychology with a post-doctoral specialty in forensics working with sexual behavior problems, as well as 29 years of experience in the fields of professional BDSM and sex education.
how does it work?
Kink Counseling is an opportunity to discuss your curiosities, concerns, and questions about consensual BDSM (bondage, discipline, sado-masochism) in a private and confidential setting. It is designed to help individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships develop a positive connection to their desire, as well as the skills and resources necessary to manifest a healthy expression of this desire in solo and interpersonal play.
Kink Counseling is goal-oriented and strategy-focused: My aim is to listen carefully to your current situation and work with you collaboratively on here-and-now solutions to your kink concerns. Kink Counseling is client-centered: Appointments are made at intervals that suit your needs and schedule, and may be short- or long-term depending on your preferences.
Kink Counseling sessions are typically 50 minutes in length (although 25 and 80 minute sessions are available), and are scheduled with advance notice. I offer all sessions via video call (preferred) or telephone through a secure platform, and occasionally host in-person skills training appointments in the drawing room of Maison de la Maitresse, San Francisco's premiere boutique dungeon located near the historic Castro district.
Kink Counseling is goal-oriented and strategy-focused: My aim is to listen carefully to your current situation and work with you collaboratively on here-and-now solutions to your kink concerns. Kink Counseling is client-centered: Appointments are made at intervals that suit your needs and schedule, and may be short- or long-term depending on your preferences.
Kink Counseling sessions are typically 50 minutes in length (although 25 and 80 minute sessions are available), and are scheduled with advance notice. I offer all sessions via video call (preferred) or telephone through a secure platform, and occasionally host in-person skills training appointments in the drawing room of Maison de la Maitresse, San Francisco's premiere boutique dungeon located near the historic Castro district.
this isn't your typical therapy.
In fact, it's important to note that this is not licensed psychotherapy, and is not intended to diagnose or treat any mental illness as designated by the American Psychiatric Association. More questions about this? Visit my FAQ page.
areas of focus include: |
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AB/DL (adult baby and diaper lover) identities, play, and communities
Coming out to your partner or family BDSM 101 – learning the ropes and language of kink to build confidence and get what you want Creating successful ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and multi-partner relationships Power Concordant relationships – learning how to meet needs in two-top or two-bottom relationships Expertise Discordant relationships – communication skills and confidence building for novice tops and bottoms whose partner(s) have more experience Power fluid relationships – making the most of your versatility |
Kink for wellness and self-care
Lifestyle, 24/7, collaring, contracts, and M/s relationships Navigating boundaries and consent Trauma and recovery, including healing from sexual shame Recovering from infidelity Access and accommodation for kink with disability ** Dominant entitlement training for women Cross dressing and gender manipulation Gender fluidity, gender nonconformity, transgender and non-binary identities Understanding fetishism |
Ethical sadomasochism – including playing from a social justice perspective and bringing anti-oppression principles into your play
BDSM skills training – from fundamentals to advanced techniques Skills training and professional development for Pro Dommes Becoming a kink aware professional – consultation for health care, legal, and law enforcement professionals |
Accessibility Note: For in-person meetings, la Maison is located up 1/2 flight of stairs and is a low-scent but not scent free environment.
All sessions are currently being offered via telehealth only.